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Edit: make that 5.
A co-worker brought her kids into work for a few minutes this afternoon. Her daughter took one look at the cup on my desk and tentatively asked: “Are you a Nerdfighter?” and then “But you’re an adult!” She’s rather happy to know that being a Nerdfighter is a lifelong endeavor.
|—||Sir Roger Norrington (via jeanpaulj)|
With Father’s Day happening this past weekend my dad has been on my mind. Dad is a retired high school principal and former high school teacher and athletic director. He also served as coach for sport teams from golf to the pompon squad. Throughout the years he was called upon frequently to give speeches at one school function after another.
My dad once gave a speech about how golf is life. That is, the sign that says “Always replace your divot” is the best advice to apply to your personal, professional and spiritual life - your life every day, if you take it word by word. Always. Always. Even when no one else is looking. Even when everyone is looking. Always. Replace. Replenish. Renew. If you use it, replace it. If you took it, put it back where you found it. Recharge. Refill. Replace. Your. Yours. Take ownership of what is yours. And only yours. Don’t take credit for what isn’t yours and let others have their share of credit and credibility. Live up to you. Your. Divot. Divots happen. If you want to play golf - you have to dig in. You swing hard. Divots happen. If you want to live - you have to dig in. Success requires jumping in and struggling and swinging hard - but all successes have their down sides - and mistakes happen. And some “mistakes” lead to success. Every perfect golf swing turns up turf. Divot. So Always Replace Your Divot.
Or something like that. I was really little when he made the speech - so this is kind of third hand…still, it is a very cool message and one that I try to take to heart. If you visit my music therapy room you will see this little mantra posted on my wall. Always Replace Your Divot.
I invite you to join me in making Always Replace Your Divot not just a cute catch phrase but a mantra, a lifestyle, a reminder to live up to you. Imagine how wonderfully the world would work together if we did this for ourselves and each other.
What are you doing today to make and replace life’s divots?
Frozen Swiss Landscape
In January 2005, Lake Geneva and the surrounding area were hit with a horrific ice storm. Everything was completely blanketed with ice when waves breaking on the lake’s shore hardened into a solid coating in the sub-freezing temperatures. Several boats even sank under the weight of the ice. The wind gusts reached 110 km/h (60 mph) and literally froze water sprays in their place.
God we fuck up teenagers’ heads. We tell them that biological conditions are moral punishments and then we get all shocked when they don’t practice rational risk management of biological conditions. We teach them “sex is super desirable and all the cool kids do it, and it’s hideously shameful and will destroy your life” and we wonder why they act an eensy bit neurotic about it. If you tried to design a system for making sexually active kids confused and unsafe, you couldn’t do much better than the American media and school system.
And for once, the answer is relatively simple. Just talk about sex like it’s a part of life. Some people have sex and some people don’t, because people are different. STIs aren’t bad because they’re Dirty Crotch Rot; they’re bad because they’re contagious illnesses like strep throat or whooping cough, and you can ask a doctor to check for and treat them just like you would with strep throat. Unwanted pregnancy isn’t a scarlet A; it’s a mostly-preventable accident that sometimes occurs when people are going about their normal business of having sex. You can ask the school counselor about a variety of topics, including career planning, problems at home, questions about sex, or conflicts with teachers.
If we could just get the goddamn stick out of our collective ass and accept that sex is a human activity and teenagers are humans, maybe there wouldn’t be quite so many plaintive “I don’t understand my body and I’m confused and scared and I don’t know anyone I can ask in person” messages flying out into the world.
|—||Earl Gray Stevens (via m-as-tu-vu)|